well my gf… is a university student and also works part time in the night until 11. so she ’s home like around 12. i didn’t see her for one whole month and she don’t call because she lost her cell phone but she called to ask me to do something for her…. during that month of rare communication i was thinking wat sense does it make being with a girl, who is obviously intelligent and ambious but on the other hand has no time or not making an effort to have a relationship? she doesn’t even ask what i’m doin wit my life? what is my hope… it’s like we’re jus in a relationship for the looks (rite) and luxuries…. is it selfish to want time when in a relationship?
what would you do? or were u ever in a situation similar to this? tell me how u got through

I have been divorced from my ex husband for 5 years now.
We had a very bitter divorce which ended up in a nasty court battle. He was then ordered by the judge to pay a small sum of money until our son leaves full time education. My ex husband was earning a substantial amount of money at the time, which he lied about to the courts. He was able to hide a lot of his income without proof as he is self employed. Therefore the amount he paid for our son was not very much, but I was grateful for it none the less.
Since then, my ex has remarried, lived a champagne lifestlyle, and moved twice to luxury homes while I lived with my son on a limited income. He has always been very bitter towards me, and will verbally abuse me from time to time. Which I try to ignore and rise above for the sake of our son.
About a month ago, he contacted me to say he now has no income, as the person he worked for on a self employed basis has got rid of him.
He has now cut my money by half and I am really struggling to cope. I contacted my Solicitor who told me there is not a lot the courts can do as he has lost his job.
However, I know he is still spending money like water, still going on fancy holidays and may even have a new job.
But because of the way he is, I feel this was just a convenient excuse to cut the money.
Does anyone one know if I can take him to court so that his finances can be looked at.
I have tried to explain things as best as I can to him, but he is a very stubborn person who wont listen to anything I have to say.
Only legal advice on this please

about me: IM A REAL MOVIE BUFF. I LIKE TO KEEP UP-TO-DATE WITH LATEST REALESES. AS FOR THE HOME IM A LITTLE BIT OF A TRADITIONALIST.I LIKE TO FEELL COZY AND COMFORTABLE AND TO BE IN SURROUNDINGS THAT LIFT MY MOOD.I DONT LIKE TO TAKE THINGS TOO SERIOUSLY. FOR ME FRIENDSHIP IS ALL ABT ENJOYING MYSELF AND SEEING THE FUN SIDE OF LIFE.WHEN IT COMES TO ART. IM PASSIONATE ABT HISTORY AND FULL OF RESPECT FOR THE SKILLS THAT HAVE BEEN AROUND FOR CENTUARIES. TRULY GREAT ART STANDS THE TEST OF TIME. I I LIKE HW MUSIC HELPS ME TO UNWIND AND SWITCH OFF. MUSIC TRANSPORTS ME FAR FROM EVERYDAY’S GRIND. IM SOMEONE WHO CARES ABT FEELING HEALTHY. I LIKE TO TRY TO MAKE THE RIGHT CHOICES .WHEN I THINK OF FREEDOM I THINK OF TECHNOLOGY OPENING DOORS AND PROVIDING ME WID THE LINKS TO COMMUNICATE WHEREVER IM..WHEN IT COMES TO HOLIDAYS I WANT A PLACE WHERE WE CAN RECHARGE OUR BATTERIES IN LUXURIES SURROUNDINGGS, AS WELL AS SPENDING QUALITY TIME WID FRNDS AND FAMILY. IM ROMANTIC IN MY OWN OUTLOOK AND LOVE THE SIMPLICITY OF NATURE.WHEN IT COMES TO DRINKING I HAVE A TASTE WHICH IS EXOTIC.
THTS ALL ABT M

I am sorry for the long story but its really important.. Thanks

I and this guy are together since 3.5 yrs. I went to UK for higher studies, He went to australia for his studies in the year 2006. We were into long distance relationship. He made me cry a lot when I was in UK. He use to break up every 2nd day with me.. Call me with bad words like fuck off, Fuck you, Get the fuck out of my life and all. I use to listen to every abuse calmly. My UK has been destroyed forever as now also if I recall, i have tears in my eyes. He had his brother and relatives in Australia, a home, a luxury car and happiness. On the other hand, I had no one in UK, not even a friend, Stayed in isolated hostel where I use to miss my family and him. I use to call him, he disconnects my call, he use to abuse me and make me cry almost everyday of my life.. and my weight got 50 from 60.. I got ugly and useless. I lost my confidence and use to cry and depressed. Later I came to India, we were still together. In 2008 I went to Australia as my company sent me there for work on business visa. I was very happy as i dint see him for long. He was studing at that time and was a bit worried for his financial problems what he gave me the reason for his excuse and for hurting me badly. He use to beat me up, He use to abuse me like anything. He use to stare me in public when I tried speaking to him. He doesnt evn wanted to answer my calls. He got irritated by my voice evn. I dint see any happiness on his face and sumtimes he was too sweet to me. But that was only sumtimes.. i stayed in Australia for 3 months and he made it a disastor for me. I cried like hell and praying everyday to my GOD that please change him, please show me his love.. but that happened very rare sat 10% only.

I came back to India and it got worse. He dint answer my call and banh the phone on my face, abuse me like anything, abused my mom,my dad and everyone.. I use to cry.. he dint evn speak to me for full full months. I was shattered and devastated. My dad came into the picture, i told him everything and he asked me to leave him. I did the same. I was into depression for 4 months, crying turning whole night into morning… I still get tears in my eyes if i remm UK and these 4 months.. He use to break up every 2nd day for about 2 years. I left him

After 5 onths he came back to India where we both belong to.. He apologized to me , my dad a lot many times. and my dad actually asked me to give him 1 chance. I said ok.. We got together again. He was to sweet for few months and we got engaged. Now after engagement I could see the anger and abuse symtoms again and i got too scared remmembering my past which was disastrous. I discussed it with my dad and my dad spoke to him. now he is playing tricks, he is too sweet to my dad but shouts at me like anything. He made a mistake and I said it is ur fault competely not mine, he got so annoyed that he abused me and said you can never tyake me for a ride.. He was like if i am bad i am a worst nightmare just bacause of the reason that i dint take abuseive language and stopped him..I said i am no more ur old girl. I have changed and will not take this kinda shit anymore. He got pissed off and stated to shout. I dint speak to him for 4 days and now he is like m sorry i ll change and all. I said u said sorry earlier also and I gave you 1 chance. I trusted on you and got engaged. I told him that I am not his property or slave..He is dominating also. He puts his thought on me and if i express my thoughts he argue with me and say no thats is not right, this is not right..

He gives emotional talks to my father and my dad id like may be is too at heart.. he is just an angry man.. But after marrige I have to go to australia and I would not have anyone over there.. i m too scared of him. what should i do?? Could any one please give me a wise answer. PPl around me says just call off the engagement.

Should i?? Will he get worse in his abuses and voice.. Should I call the engagement off??

My name is Andrea. I am 19 yrs old and a high school graduate. I have a problem that has become more and more serious during the past year or so. I really have no clue where to begin, but let me first thank you for taking the time to read this. I guess I should begin with a little background to my issue. Well, I grew up in a really tiny town and in an even smaller home. It was just my mother and myself. The only word to describe my life growing up and my surroundings I guess would have to be ‘poverty’. My mom worked as a farmhand to provide for us the best she could, but we were still always very very low on money, as well as other needs. She brought me up very well, and I have never felt sorry for myself or been ashamed of my life. I did very well in school growing up. I always had perfect attendance, A’s, and clean clothes on my back. Although it was just my mother and I in a one bedroom house, we always dreamed of bigger things. We had no furniture or luxuries. When I was about 8 yrs old we could finally afford a refrigerator that actually worked and a used stove that had a working oven and not just top burners. She worked very hard in the fields all day and would return home at night practically dead with sore…well everything. Well jumping ahead a bit, soon came time for my graduation. I was very excited and already had prepared years ahead for college. I graduated top og my class and was accepted to a private college about an hr away from home. Soon came time for me to move out, and to no suprise my mother was very excited for me as well as sad, for I would be moving out soon. My mother was pround, not only because I had turned out so well, but because she had only completed 6th grade and had gotten married at around 14. my mother was born in 1953, and not into a very good household. My grandmother, who I never got a chance to meet was married to a problemed man. This relationship in turn caused my aunt and mother to go through many horrible things. At the first oppurtunity, my mother took a chance and got out. She ended up running right into another abusive relationship with a 20 yr old husband. She became a mother at 14 and has had a rough life since. She was wonderful, and would not do anything less than walk through fire for her children. About a month after my graduation, I had already settled into my dorms and begain my smester at college. I graduated highschool a year early, so I was the youngest in my classes. Although I have everything ahead of me that I can imagine, I worry so much about my mother. My small child support check have ended. It’s been about two years now that she had not been able to work her usual hard labor due to her age. She refuses to give up though. I can’t help but admire how strong she is. Her bills are no more than $200 a month because she owns our small house. Her Chevy cavalier is also paid for. But now it has become even harder for her to live with the $50 she makes weekly for cleaning two houses in the small town of pop.775. She’s trying, but without an education and hardly any record financially at all, all I can think about is what she will do for food or gas. Where’s the money for the increasing water costs, or electric coming from. With classes I am unable to pick up many hours at my current job at Walmart. I do not own a vehicle yet and do not have any family members to turn to. My family has broken apart sadly and I am all my mother has. I need help. I try to send as much as I can to help her, but I wish so much that I could do more. There is still no furniture in the house besides a bed and a tv, her dreams of a nice home are far out of reach. We can’t even get past the $53 car insurance bill. I’ve looked all over, asked all over. I’m short of begging for help. My heart is breaking as I helplessly watch my mother’s worries seep through her walls and travel right over to me. I can’t concentrate and I’m finding it harder and harder to sleep now. The last thing on my mind is going out with my friends or eating out on a date. I always stare down at my plate in the dorm cafeteria and wonder if she’s at home eating too. And then my hunger suddenly dissapears. I don’t know what to do, where to turn. Advice, comforting words. Anything will help. And thank you to who ever is staring at your screen right now reading this. It helps just getting it out in words.

-Andrea

I have been divorced from my ex husband for 5 years now.
We had a very bitter divorce which ended up in a nasty court battle. He was then ordered by the judge to pay a small sum of money until our son leaves full time education. My ex husband was earning a substantial amount of money at the time, which he lied about to the courts. He was able to hide a lot of his income without proof as he is self employed. Therefore the amount he paid for our son was not very much, but I was grateful for it none the less.
Since then, my ex has remarried, lived a champagne lifestlyle, and moved twice to luxury homes while I lived with my son on a limited income. He has always been very bitter towards me, and will verbally abuse me from time to time. Which I try to ignore and rise above for the sake of our son.
About a month ago, he contacted me to say he now has no income, as the person he worked for on a self employed basis has got rid of him.
He has now cut my money by half and I am really struggling to cope. I contacted my Solicitor who told me there is not a lot the courts can do as he has lost his job.
However, I know he is still spending money like water, still going on fancy holidays and may even have a new job.
But because of the way he is, I feel this was just a convenient excuse to cut the money.
Does anyone one know if I can take him to court so that his finances can be looked at.
I have tried to explain things as best as I can to him, but he is a very stubborn person who wont listen to anything I have to say.
Only legal advice on this please

i m having a wierd dream that related to the doomsday rumors 12-12-2012.
everyone is scared about the doomsday, execpt me. i stay cool.
my mother feels depressed about the family and she buy a plane ticket and she give one to me.

when i ask her where to?
she answered with smile Florida. we will have a lot of fun. (I live in Jakarta, Indonesia)
i’ m not really think that is a good idea. i prefer stay, but she wants to go that bad.
what can i do? i only can accompany her.
and when i asked her again, What a price. how can we go back home?
my mother cant answer that. so, i thought that it was a one-way ticket to florida.

while waiting the plane to come (oddly, we are not even in an airport. we are in somekind of suburban depots) i saw my friend, smiling at me, and sit beside me.
she do not talk to me, but she just sit beside me, like it was her last time to see me.
then my mother came, and told me to do something with the ticket
(i dont know what it is. i forget. i never ride a plane before)
so i go around the place to do some stuff about the ticket.

btw, although in the dream, we will travel together, but it is only a single ticket.
and she let me hold it.

around the place, i met everyone from my past that i never again contact.
even my childhood neighbour. they are eating noodles in the cafetaria around that place.
and didn’t even notice me walking around in front of them

when i get back, my mother is in a luxury table, eating with rich manager there.
my mother introduce me to him hai, i think you should call me papa then
i dont really agree with that. he likes my mother and a complete stranger to me.
but my mother didn’t see that.

and that is the end of the dream.
dream about one way ticket to Florida, but i never saw even a single planes or airport

can anyone be kind to me to interprete this dream for me?
it is not a scary dream. but i feel very curious.

my condition in real world :
- she is in a depression about thinking the probability that my father cheat on her.
and yesterday i hug her dont worry, you still have me
- the friend who sit beside me like this was her last time (or maybe our last time) to see me again is my best friend who care so much to me, and she got a very high intuition. maybe higher than me.
- the night before i sleep, my father watching the television. the show’s topic is about doomsday 2012, will it happens or not.
- i dont realy care about doomsday 2012, because i already have everyone talking about doomsday before, like in 9-9-1999, 1-1-2000 but nothing bad happens.

They come together for a world summit on ‘global warming’ with over 140 private jets and 1400 limousines, fleets of buses, Mercedes, Audis, Jaguars,and various other land barges to dictate to US on how we should conserve energy.
It wont be long before you will be sitting in the dark because they turn the power grid off from 6pm to 6am, while they hold formal functions and events to raise money for the homeless and needy in other countries, when they could have stayed home and sent the money in for relief efforts, used all that cash in planning the function, new $14000.00 dresses, Tuxedos, limos, etc, to help the poor.
They are all typical elitist, I-can-do-no-wrong, do-as-I-say-not-as-I-do low life pond scum.
So let me get this straight: I am going to be TAXED for BREATHING???? Carbon Dioxide has been declared a harmful emission. What incredibly STOOOOPID ’scientist’ backed THOSE findings???
If I recall, my 6th grade science class said that plants, through photosynthesis, ‘breath in’ carbon dioxide, and exhale oxygen.
Are we so STUPID to actually fall for this drivel?
They believe we are.
I feel this whole thing is another far-left elitist attempt to grab more control over our personal lives, all the while they are living in luxury and burning energy like there is no tomorrow.
I think they are the pinnacle of hypocrisy.
What say you?

They come together for a world summit on ‘global warming’ with over 140 private jets and 1400 limousines, fleets of buses, Mercedes, Audis, Jaguars,and various other land barges to dictate to US on how we should conserve energy.
It wont be long before you will be sitting in the dark because they turn the power grid off from 6pm to 6am, while they hold formal functions and events to raise money for the homeless and needy in other countries, when they could have stayed home and sent the money in for relief efforts, used all that cash in planning the function, new $14000.00 dresses, Tuxedos, limos, etc, to help the poor.
They are all typical elitist, I-can-do-no-wrong, do-as-I-say-not-as-I-do low life pond scum.
So let me get this straight: I am going to be TAXED for BREATHING???? Carbon Dioxide has been declared a harmful emission. What incredibly STOOOOPID ’scientist’ backed THOSE findings???
If I recall, my 6th grade science class said that plants, through photosynthesis, ‘breath in’ carbon dioxide, and exhale oxygen.
Are we so STUPID to actually fall for this drivel?
They believe we are.
I feel this whole thing is another far-left elitist attempt to grab more control over our personal lives, all the while they are living in luxury and burning energy like there is no tomorrow.
I think they are the pinnacle of hypocrisy.
What say you?
EDIT to the quack:
The research has been done.
Over and over.
It disagreed with ‘the flavor of the day’, so they decided to bury it.
Now the truth is out that they L I E D.
I see limos driving around all the time.
Nothing to do with safety, everything to do with look how important i am, usually with a bunch of drunks screaming and hanging out of the sunroof.
If you want safety, hire out standard armored cars, not highly visible limos.
If you want to contribute to the poor, SEND THE MONEY, dont waste a million dollars on the function, use that money to feed the poor.
Again, it is all look at me I am doing something important.
Our ENTIRE ecosystem is CARBON BASED.
Grow a brain stem.
Sickening.
EDIT High tech: you are right. On top of that, they say the highest temperatures ON RECORD, meaning we have no accurate data more than 50 years old.
Ice core samples, and tree rings are not entirely accurate, and are up for interpretation.

Will my rewards in Heaven be MUCH greater than these Earthly rewards such as

living in a nice house in the city
having a vacation home out in the country
driving a nice luxury car
driving a nice 4×4 truck
owning a nice boat
owning water skis
owning 4 wheelers
owning lots of nice jewelry
owning lots of vinyl LPs
having a nice swimming pool and jacuzzi in your backyard
getting to go on lots of nice vacations
getting to go to lots of rock concerts
getting to go to lots of professional sporting events
eating lots and lots of good food
having lots and lots of great friends with the people who you wanna be friends with
always getting invited to your friends’ parties

Also will I be rewarded endlessly while I’m in Heaven? I want to have it all and live a fun and exciting life