If an elderly person has to go into an old peoples home (UK) don’t they have to pay themselves if they the capital or finances behind them? Doesn’t the state only pay if they have no funds? If so, what if they were “not of sound mind” and a devious relative got them to sign all their money over to them, kept and spent it for themselves and dumped them on the state saying they had no money,so the state pays and the devious relative lives in the lap of luxury? If this is the case can that relative be prosecuted by the state (presumably the DWP)?

My husband and I have been Married for 20 years. We have three children,they are 18,15 and 8. We have had a lot of ups and downs in those 20 years.There have been many times that I have wanted to leave and felt like things were not working. I have always stayed because I was hoping for something more.I have begged him to spend more time with me , I have told him that we need to work on our marriage,we need to date.He has never thought it was important. He has been content and happy with what we have.I have been sad and alone for a long time.I told him 6 months ago that we had nothing in common and that I was sure that when the kids moved out I would leave.He didnt even respond.
The complicated thing about this is I have known another man for 13 years,He has always been a really good friend.He has been someone I have come to rely on.I have known for years that he had more feelings for me,but I never acted on them because he is my brother in law. He is married to my husbands sister. We have lived in the same town for the past 7 years.He had come to my house every Saturday and we would talk for hours. He came to watch my sons baseball games, he helped to teach my daughters to drive. He has supported me when my husband did not. Things were fine, Then he and his wife and son decided to move to a different state.We had never acted on our feelings because the pain it would cause for everyone would have been horrible.
The night before he left I thought I was going to die. I couldnt tell him how I felt it was not my place.He was not mine even though the connection was so intense.After he moved I was devastated. I Never knew I loved him and depended on him that much.We still texted and talked, He was having a hard time being gone also.We finally admitted after being 2400 miles apart how we actually felt. The feeling that came out and they joy we got from knowing was better then anything I had experienced before.We both felt amazing. Then came reality, we could not live in this hidden place forever.He and I both knew that he didnt love his wife he had not for a very long time.We talked for hours into the night and for hours every day.He decided to tell his wife he was leaving her.My husband knew I had feeling for him and knew that he was leaving her for me. So my husband and I have been arguing , him and his wife have been arguing.We are happiest when we are talking , But the family issues have made things very difficult.We keep trying to come up with a solution that will be good for everyone.My husband and his sister have talked and he is trying to persuade me and she is trying to persuade him.We have been having sleepless nights and have become desperate just to resolve the situation. It has taken its toll on everyone involved.Neither of us have the money to move out of our houses or to even meet any time soon.Last night was a final straw.My husband keeps trying to get me to work on our marriage, He says after 20 years of not being here emotionally he just got his wake up call and wants to try. I am not sure I want to try, I feel it is too late.I have tried for so long that all my emotions are gone. With the lack of sleep and the distance, my relationship with the other man has become strained. He doesnt want to push me in any direction he wants me to make my own decision.He has decided today that we can not talk , it is too hard on both of us to be in this limbo.He says he will wait for my decision.I know I want to try things with him, I just dont want to destroy my kids in the process. I got married when I was 18 years old and have been married for 20 years.. I dont know how to stand on my own. I dont know where to turn, because today my rock and my best friend have gone so I can learn to stand on my own. I just need some advice and help. Do I pursue the new relationship.. which is not all that new we have been emotionally attached for the better of 7 years, We have never done anything physical, but we still are connected in a very intense way. Please any advice would be gladly accepted.

A relative of mine ( spinster never been married own house), who has caused me many personal problems, about 10 years ago “conned” the DWP into early retirement on the grounds of “ill health”. I remember the battle with the DWP who were convinced there was insufficient grounds but eventually backed down. Since then this relative (within the 1st 12 months) got another very elderly relative to sign her monies over to her in return for moving in with her. This relative of mine had a meagre pension by the way. Within 2 years the relative has the elderly woman put into a nursing home (e.g. probably conned DWP again into thinking the elderly woman is penniless so the state pays the nursing home) while she lives in the lap of luxury spending this ladies monies on house improvements, holidays, and new cars. In addition to this she leads a very active lifestyle, volunteer work with the police, runs homewatch, etc on her feet all day. Personally, I think there is nothing stopping her working full time? Would the DWP take this on as a re-investigation?

We live a somewhat luxurious life, all because of the hard work of my father. My father’s been working abroad ever since I could remember. He would come home for a month every year. Sometimes he would not be home for a couple of years and he’d be here for two months. He’d position his “vacation” month with us everytime there’s a special occasion in the family like my high school graduation, or the Christmas month. Ever since I was a child I kept asking him to stop working and just stay put at home and find work locally. He keeps on promising:”Hopefully, by 2004″”I promise you I’ll stop by 2005″”2006, son”
I finally gave up when I reached my teenage years. He was my hero, my idol. But I realized he’ll never fulfill his promises. I stopped bugging him and I guess at the same time lost my reverence for him. Whenever he’s at home, I would help him in doing anything electronics-related, as that is his passion. I want to be closer to him, but I can’t because I never really shared the same passion for computer and gadgets that he wants me to develop. I’m a geek, love to read books, and are passionate to animals. My passions are widely different from his. He never understood me for being who I am. He sees my behavior as a “phase” and would amusingly entertain me when I talk about anima science and books I’ve read but deep down I know those are my real passions. He just kept on pressing me to “toughen up”. Eventually, I have grown to hate him.

How do I resolve this problem? I keep putting up the subject of what I feel about what he’s doing but he always somehow shoots me down. I feel like he’s abandoning us. I can’t talk him out of working because he’s close to retirement already. But I really do miss my father. It’s like he just exists to grant us our luxuries but never stands as a father figure to us siblings…

Hi, my partner and I are are planning to move to the US in less then a year, more specifically Los Angeles. My partner is being transferred with work but is able to work from home, so no need to be close to head office. I run my own creative business that I can set up anywhere. So we have the luxury of choosing from the whole city.

We suspect (after doing some research) that we will be paying around $2000 - $3000 per month for rent, which is fine. What areas would you suggest looking at for a nice 2 bedroom place.

We’ve been to LA before but only on holiday so haven’t paid to much attention to residential areas.

Any help would be great!
Also … Is someone able to give a brief description on the different type or property. Where we are from I think we have slightly different names or they relate to different type of properties. ie,

Condo, Townhouse, etc…

I’ve been having some issues with one of my good friends lately and I don’t know If I’m being too sensitive. We just got done with our first year of College and halfway through the year my family moved out of state. Over winter break, my friend said It would be fine if I stayed with him and his family. His mom, dad, brother and I get along really well and have a good time; over winter break there were no problems whatsoever.

After the semester ended, I found myself in need of a home for the summer, for which my friend volunteered his place to me, and seeing how winter break was, I accepted. I have been back in town for about 2 weeks and I’ve started to notice some subtle hints in his behavior. When we are around his extended family and our friends he is mostly fine, but when we will be at his house with his brother, or just another one of my friends, he has started to become increasingly rude and mean. He will pick arguments with me over opinion based questions (I.E. Abortion) and I will attempt to have a civil conversation with him about such topics. He has not pursued secondary schooling and I am more than confident that I have more knowledge than him in the given fields of argument, but that’s not the point. During the argument he will belittle my opinion and make me feel stupid. On other occasions he will say things that are incorrect without any regard for my feelings on the subject, or even my input. For example, I will help out around the house so that his mother and father feel more comfortable with me living there (I.E. Asking his mom what she would like me to do while she is at work the next day/ making a list). He will just state incorrect things around his parents. “You slept all afternoon” - thereby making me sound lazy, when in fact I did all the things his mother had asked me to do the night before.

I guess what I am trying to say is that after the last semester ended and we have been staying at his place, he has started to belittle me, make me feel stupid, and be blatantly disrespectful to me. When I attempt to tell him these things I just walk away from the conversation feeling stupid and worthless. I feel like he is almost sick with it, by that I mean I feel like he gets some sort of pleasure out of making me feel so worthless. I am a very outgoing individual with lots of social obligations, and most of the time he would rather play video games at his house. In terms of respect, I have been nothing less than a Paragon of behavior around his home, and his parents. What could I have possibly done to make him treat me like this? Am I over-reacting?

Thanks for taking the time to talk to me about this. The last two weeks are really starting to take their toll on me. I don’t sleep very well anymore, and I feel like I want to just avoid him altogether, but I’m staying in his house. He knows I have no where else to go.

Hello my little brother Mark had a squeeky voice and the otherday at skool they wer makeing fun of his voice! He tolled mhe if i could ask this question to see if he could change his voice into a deeper voice. He doesnt want to buy any products he said if there could be a way to just practice by doing some moves. P.S hes in 7th grade!

i’m getting an 11 week Siberian husky tomorrow. His owners live in clay regions so he is really dirty. Like he is gray and cream colored, but in his pictures he looks orange. So Tomorrow after getting him, i wanted to take him to petsmart to get a puppy bath, and get microchiped so i can get all of that stuff out of the way. If i don’t leave him at all during the entire thing, would it still be too tramatic to take him on the first day i have him? the whole thing is, is that i live in a luxury apartment ($1000 a month) and i don’t want to bring him into my apartment and get all my carpet and furniture dirty. My fiance and I have signed him up for puppy training courses, effective in a week. I’m not really concerned about him tearing up my house. He didn’t at the breeders house. I just want to know if taking him tommorow will be bad for him.

I have been with my partner for almost 6 years and we have a child together but I feel like the relationship has nowhere left to go. My partner is selfish and even though i work 40-60 hours a week in a high stress job, I still find myself coming home to a messy house that i have to clean despite the fact she only works 1-2 days a week and spends the rest of the time sitting at home doing virtually nothing.
Our child is almost 4 and extremely self sufficient so supervising him is not a difficult duty even when cleaning the house (I know because I still do both frequently). My partner demands favours from me all the time like massages and other luxury services but returns nothing.
She is agonizingly negative and seems to go out of her way to bring me down with her. We separated at the end of 2009 for 6 months because of these exact same reasons, but it crushed me to be away from my son so I went back. But now I just can’t deal with it any more. I stress at work and at home it just feels like she is constantly seeking to manipulate me. I feel we are both over this relationship but have grown dependant on each other. Should I go, or should I stick it out to be with my son?

Question 1

Which statement best describes Edna as an artist?

Edna devotes every spare second to her art.

Edna dabbles in art lacking any real talent.

Edna is immensely talented yet refuses her creativity because she dislikes it.

Edna has a great deal of talent but lacks the discipline and self-motivation to be a great artist.

Edna loves art but gives it up to spite Leonce.

Question 2

Which statement best describes Edna as a mother?

She is unkind to her children and resentful of them.

She dislikes her children immensely.

She is distant but fond of her children.

She would give up her individuality for her children.

She lives only for her children.

Question 3

The flashbacks to Edna’s childhood function

to reveal Edna’s desire to have the luxury and freedom a child has.

to reveal Edna has an impulsive nature.

to reveal Edna has a rebellious nature.

All of the above

None of the above

Question 4

Why does Adele tell Edna to “think of the children” when Adele sees her in the hospital after giving birth to another child?

Adele suspects Edna is having an affair.

Adele suspects Edna is contemplating suicide.

Edna tells Adele she is leaving Leonce.

All of the above

None of the above

Question 5

In what war did Edna’s father, the Colonel, fight?

World War I

World War II

The French and Indian War

The American Revolutionary War

The Civil War

Question 6

What Creole attitudes does Edna have trouble adjusting?

Open discussions of sensuality in mixed company.

The idea that a wife places her husband’s needs above her own.

The idea that a mother places the needs of her children above her own.

All of the above

None of the above

Question 7

What incidents reveal that Leonce is not a good match as a husband for Edna?

Leonce wakes Edna to care for their son explaining he has a fever.

Leonce controls her every action.

Leonce’s obsession with his business makes him unaware of Edna’s feelings.

Both a and c

Both b and c

Question 8
How do the young lovers function in the novel?

They reveal the ideal love which Edna seeks.

They foreshadow that she will never attain a perfect love.

They remind her of how she felt when she married Leonce.

They serve as an inspiration to work harder at her marriage.

Both c and d

Question 9

Where does Leonce often eat dinner?

At the race track.

At his men’s social club.

At the Ratignolle home.

At Madamoiselle Reisz’s home.

None of the above

Question 10

Robert leaves Edna because:

He is unwilling to go against the Creole society’s idea of a wife’s place with her husband.

He doesn’t love Edna.

Edna wants to divorce her husband and marry him.

He only wants to have an affair with Edna.

Both c and d

Question 11

What does Victor Lebrun do to upset Edna at a dinner party?

Reads her a letter from Robert.

Reveals that Robert will be leaving.

Insults her by calling her a vulgar name.

Sings a song reminding Edna of Robert.

Reads a poem reminding Edna of Robert.

Question 12

Which character warns Edna of what independence will take?

Leonce Pontellier

Madame Lebrun

Madame Ratignolle

Mademoiselle Reisz

Dr. Mandolet

Question 13

Edna’s father:

was a Colonel in the army during the Civil War.

disapproves of Edna’s marrying Leonce.

feels wives should be controlled by their husbands.

All of the above

None of the above

Question 14

Leonce is a model husband by Creole standards which include:

Never showing jealousy of other men.

Providing a beautiful home and beautiful things.

Sending little trinkets as gifts.

Both b and c.

All of the above.

Question 15
Edna has an affair with:

Alcee Arobin

Robert Lebrun

Victor Lebrun

Dr. Mandolet

None of the above.

Question 16

What does Dr. Mandolet mean when he says to Edna that, “Youth is given up to illusions”?

He means what society has taught about marriage and childbirth makes it seem romantic when in reality it is not.

He means young people are too naïve to understand what true love is.

He means what society has taught about money makes it seem like having a lot of it will make you happy, but this is not the case.

All of the above

None of the above

Question 17

Which character is a foil to Adele Ratignolle?

Leonce Pontellier

Edna Pontellier

Madame Lebrun

Mademoiselle Reisz

Alcee Arobin

Question 18

By choosing to devote herself to her art Mademoiselle Reisz:

has gone against the expectations of