My husband and I are pretty well off to give our kids the luxury of not having to work at a young age. Our 15 year old daughter goes to a private school and gets very good grades. However, she got herself an afterschool job at a fast food place. In our town, that is the only place where it is allowed to hire a minor 15 years of age.We give her money, and pretty much buy her whatever she wants (she doesn’t ask for much). I asked her why she’s working then and she said it’s because she’s bored at home. The poor child comes home at 8:30 pm everyday. And I am honestly a little embarrased that my daughter that comes from a well off family is seen working at a fast food place. Another thing that bothers me is she does not let me spend ANY money on her. My husband is celebrating his 50th birthday next weekend and it’s going to be a huge party. I forcefully took her to a shoe store because I wanted her to buy decent good quality shoes to wear for her father’s birthday. There will be many people there, and I need her to look like part of the family. I picked out a wonderful pair of shoes for her for 700 dollars and she deliberately said she will not let me buy them for her. The heel is pretty high but the shoes suit her well. She said she will not be able to walk in them but they are pretty. I told her that I will buy them for her and she can wear it in the beginning of the party to stand around and she can bring some fancy ballet flats with her when her feet get tired. She said that she will not buy 700 dollar shoes just so she can stand around in them. Her “hero” attitude is starting to annoy me and I believe it is showing disrespect to her father and his status by wearing low quality clothes for his party just because of the cheaper price. She has a body of a doll and gorgeous legs and she doesn’t want to take advantage of that! I take her to high end stores to make her get used to the finer things in life but she just mops around and looks down on the floor when an assistant working at my favourite boutique just decides to engage in small talk with her and ask her how she’s doing. Can anyone help me over the embarrasment of what people will think? She’s a great kid….but this is too much.

I currently work as a shipping and receiving supervisor on third shift at a 50 acre major appliance warehouse. I am expecting my first child in April 2012 and my superior has made it quite clear that absence due to pregnancy and in the future bc of my child will not be tolerated. This alone is causing me a great deal of stress and some pregnancy complications. However, id rather be proactive and find a solution rather than dwell on it.
After the baby arrives I would like to work days a the the very least but am exploring “at home” options. I am under no illusions that I will be able to make millions from KY computer but some supplemental income would be nice.

I have some skills and certifications and broad work experience including: childcare director,catering, clerical skills, phlebotomy, home care and some marketing. I’m also pretty crafty and my friends and family rave about my letter writing/ opinion writing skills.

I’m looking for suggestions not snide comments. My fiance’s income is more than sufficient for our needs but I do not like to feel dependent or like I’m not contributing in any way. Honestly my income is typically used for pleasure shopping other luxuries or it goes into savings. My main interest in this idea is simply to be able to balance sharing time with our new baby and still feel like a contributing partner in our household.

Thanks for reading

My husband and I are pretty well off to give our kids the luxury of not having to work at a young age. Our 15 year old daughter goes to a private school and gets very good grades. However, she got herself an afterschool job at a fast food place. In our town, that is the only place where it is allowed to hire a minor 15 years of age.We give her money, and pretty much buy her whatever she wants (she doesn’t ask for much). I asked her why she’s working then and she said it’s because she’s bored at home. The poor child comes home at 8:30 pm everyday. And I am honestly a little embarrased that my daughter that comes from a well off family is seen working at a fast food place. Another thing that bothers me is she does not let me spend ANY money on her. My husband is celebrating his 50th birthday next weekend and it’s going to be a huge party. I forcefully took her to a shoe store because I wanted her to buy decent good quality shoes to wear for her father’s birthday. There will be many people there, and I need her to look like part of the family. I picked out a wonderful pair of shoes for her for 700 dollars and she deliberately said she will not let me buy them for her. The heel is pretty high but the shoes suit her well. She said she will not be able to walk in them but they are pretty. I told her that I will buy them for her and she can wear it in the beginning of the party to stand around and she can bring some fancy ballet flats with her when her feet get tired. She said that she will not buy 700 dollar shoes just so she can stand around in them. Her “hero” attitude is starting to annoy me and I believe it is showing disrespect to her father and his status by wearing low quality clothes for his party just because of the cheaper price. Can anyone help me over the embarrasment of what people will think? She’s a great kid….but this is too much.

I’m sadly 29 and still living at home, but by age 30 one way or another I’m OUT!
I was living here so long because of credit card debt.
But I’ve been paying them off and saving everything I can.
I paid off 3 since August and have ONE more left!
I’m working THREE jobs at the moment, I have no time to myself. But I’m just keeping in mind that I need to get the hell out of this house. Like this week I’ll be working 72 hours.. Ughh.

Anyway. My dad makes me and my sister miserable. We could be watching TV, and I’ll look up and he’s looking at me with a sad face and he’ll say. “You need to go out and find your life (life = husband).. Anytime I’m home which is rarely, he gets mad and tells me to go out and find a husband. He makes my life miserable, cause I can’t even relax at my own house. “You need to have kids, you need to have a family, one, two, three, four as many as you can).. He is getting so much worse, cause in his head AGE 30 is the cut off point for having kids.

He’s Romanian and old school, and it’s unbearable. I get so depressed and have gained weight because of it.

My mom tells us to ignore it, and that he only wants us to have kids for selfish reasons..

He is mean and said “Get married and have a kid, after a few years if you don’t like your husband you can get rid of him”.. I don’t think he married my mom for love, I think he married her just to have kids..

I honestly don’t want kids, at the moment. I never felt like I wanted them, I don’t enjoy their company and I never felt like my biological clock is ticking.. In fact, it’s my worst nightmare, because I’d never be able to accomplish my dreams, with another mouth to feed for 18 years.

My goal and has been for the longest is to move to NYC. That’s my main focus. My parents dont know about it, because I don’t want their input and negative influence.

ERRRR!

Another annoying thing he does.. Is get pissed at me for cleaning my room, and such. I mean I’m never home to do it. I have to at least getting something done when I do have the luxury of having a few moments at home.. “Don’t worry about cleaning, you need to find a husband”.. UGHHHH!!!!!

I have a good job, own a home, a car, I take a vacation around every 3 months, anything I want I will buy for myself, so I’m pretty set in life. I usually try to date guys who make more money than I do or the same or that are also set and have invested their money wisely. The reason for that is that when ever I do get married and start a family I would only like to work part time, so I can raise my kids, so I would have to depend on my husband for most of the earnings. I recently started dating this guy who I like very much and who treats me like a queen in his own way. He does not make as much money and his job is not a set job, they can fire him in any given moment if they please. When we are together I want to go out, or just get away for the weekend but he never seems to have enough money. I paid for a couple of things but i’m also not going to be paying all the time. He has mentioned he wants to start a family with me. If I do end up staying with this guy I know we are not going to be able to travel or go out the way I’m used to. I need some advice on whether its wrong on my part to be thinking so much about the luxuries I will be giving up or should I just follow my heart and deal with cutting back on the trips I had planned. Any advice will help… Thanks

Four Staten Island couples were arrested Thursday, accused of taking tens of thousands of dollars in taxpayer-supported welfare while they were living in lavish homes and receiving six-figure incomes from rental properties, investments and business they owned.

District Attorney Daniel Donovan, Jr., announced charges of third-degree welfare fraud and grand larceny against the eight Staten Island residents.

The defendants had been on the welfare rolls for years, despite living in million-dollar homes in some of Staten Island’s most exclusive neighborhoods, driving around in luxury cars and getting plenty of revenue from their investments, said Donovan.

One couple, 61-year-old Hanna Youssef and 55-year-old Zaka Youssef, received over $40,000 in Medicaid benefits since 2008, even though they owned a $1.4 million gated Todt Hill home and a strip mall on 350 Forest Ave. that brought in more than $14,000 a month, said Donovan. They also recently sold a restaurant in Brooklyn for $700,000.

http://www.nbcnewyork.com/news/local/Rich-Staten-Island-Couples-Medicaid-Fraud-132757423.html

BTW

Don’t mock welfare until you tried it. Warning its addictive!

I asked a question yesterday about becoming a housewife as this is what I really want to do, but I am concerned both about the financial implications and also about the pressure to have a career. I don’t want to be viewed as an underachiever or lazy. I’m wondering though about practical possibilities for working from home. I’ve looked it up on the internet before and they seem to give examples of things like doing paid surveys, but you get paid pence for those and it doesn’t seem like a regular realistic source of income.

Bearing in mind that I’m not worried about having a luxury lifestyle by any means, and my boyfriend is happy to be the main breadwinner, I probably don’t need to make more than about £600 per month as my contribution.

Any tips on how I can get started on working from home? I’m willing to turn my hand to most things providing no initial “investment” is needed as those things are usually a con.

Any advice would be much appreciated, thanks!

One of my relatives (dad’s cousin) is a multi-millionaire!
At first I felt kind of mad, and still feel mad because while we were living dirt-poor as I was growing up, they’ve been taking yearly trips around Europe in luxury hotels. Today, they stayed over at our house, but turned their nose up at every thing like they were too good for it.
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So, what would you do in this situation? I’d throw them out of my home. (if I had a choice)

My (16 year old) brother has a huge temper. He basically comes into the house and the minute he comes, he begins shouting at my little sister or mom for the tiniest things and it continues the whole day. He doesn’t talk, he shouts! When he wants to say something, he sometimes yells it out. It’s really taking a big toll on my family emotionally. My mom is stressed out already and she’s always wanted us to be calm, but with my brother that’s impossible. And he treats her horribly, he yells at her and aggravates her and she’s his mom! He has no feelings at all. Also, he makes my little sister cry all the time by saying things like she’s stupid, she’s retarted and she needs to see a doctor (she’s 8!). Mostly the stuff he says to me I ignore, because I know they’re not true and I don’t need to prove anything to him, but he’s my brother and with him saying and doing this it feels like he’s an enemy. I am always having to rush over and stop my sister from crying and distracting her or talking to my mom and telling her to ignore what he says, but it keeps happening over and over. And when I stand up to him, he ignores what I say, tells me to shut up and that I am just a kid and I don’t know anything about life. But when we ignore him, he’s just going to keep doing it. I am confused. Doesn’t he feel guilty? Or even a little angry with himself? Doesn’t he feel lonely or sorry when he does this? If it were me, I’d want to help my family and support them and listen to them, but not him. The only reason why my friend’s lives are simpler and quieter is because they don’t have an older brother. How can I get him to respect me and my family and how do I deal with this angry person I call my brother?
This kind of built up over time - he never used to be that way 3 years ago. He was the sweetest mama’s boy and me and him were kind of closer. I think middle/high school changed him and it’s upsetting, because he may never be that sweet boy again.

now,after 4 and a half years dealing with my dads illnesses and wild mood swings,its taken a toll on me and my health,i have heart problems and high blood pressure,i feel like exploding in his face,my dr tellsme to keep away from him,HOW? hes like fertillizer—-hes allover the place!my brother knows this and does nothing ,like take dad for one day on the weekends hes skirting the issue,he sneaks out of the housejust to avoid his father.pople say why dont you put pop in a home my brother has ten fits,he wants him home not in a nursing home.imgoing tomove out soon and my brother will have no alternative but to take his father and work with him.im glad im moving out its been a long 4 yrs for me.
what hes doing i concider to be elder abuse to both my dad and me.to my dad because hes witholding the right medical treatment for dad and me by forcing me to give dad services a trained person would give,im with dad alone at night and god forbid he was to get hurt or somehing wtf would an untrained boob like me do?my brother knows how bad dad is he just doesnt wanna face reality.