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This past Sunday evening, my GF said she was meeting a “girlfriend” for drinks at the Penthouse, a swank bar at the top of a luxury hotel in Santa Monica called the Huntley. She doesn’t have much money and is unemployed so I thought it a bid odd for girlfriends to meet there as this place is known for charging $12-$15 for drinks and for being a bit of a meatmarket or a place you bring a date.

After a couple of hours or so I called her to see when she was coming home as we live together. She didn’t answer her phone. I called the hotel and was transferred to the bartender. I could hear her and she could hear me just fine. I asked if she saw my Gf and described her and said she would be with another girl or two. After looking around she said she didn’t see her. My GF called me a few minutes later from the ladies bathroom. I asked when she was coming home and she said she would be leaving in about half an hour.

I have been with my GF for about 18 months now. In all this time she has never introduced me to her supposed girlfriends and she never answers my calls but always calls me from the ladies room. Also, on at three other occasions, she has said she was out with a girlfriend when I later learned she was actually with a guy. Two of those occasions she was with her ex and on one of those occasions she slept with him.

So yes, I was getting suspicious. When she said she would be coming home in half an hour or so I said I would meet her there. After all, I wasn’t doing anything anyway and I was curious to meet her friend. She said “ok.”

I was at the Penthouse 12 minutes later. I looked everywhere but she was no where to be found! I called her phone repeatedly and she didn’t answer. Then after another five minutes she answered. I asked where she was. She said she was driving home! I was like, how could you leave and so fast! Especially when I said I was on my way! After all, they would have to finish their drinks, request the check, give a credit card then sign and leave a tip. She played it off, trying to say she thought I was joking! I hadn’t been joking even remotely.

So, she now says I’m being crazy. I think this situation is highly messed up and that she is hiding something from me! Why would someone say they will be there half an or so then 12 minutes later be already out of there! Especially when their BF said he would meet her there?

Am I being played for a fool here?

Hello, I’m just a mother in dire need of any advice anyone could give me, I’ve thought about everything and I can’t find a solution.

Well to get to my question. My son is 32 years old and he has always been a bit rebellious, he never wanted to do his schoolwork, he never had friends until middle school and when he did they were the wrong type of friends, like the type of people that smoke (including pot) have long hair, drink, skip school, wear black clothing, and when this happened I thought it was just a phase, which it was, but the wrong type of friends remained, I just don’t know why, but throughout high school Jake just did not do his school work did not study and just kept partying, showing up drunk at home, smoking pot, bringing girls home and actually sleeping with them in our home, that we didn’t know what to do, we just kept hoping it was a phase until he dropped out of high school when he was 20 (yes he was still in high school at 20 he practically left because they told him that at 21 he was getting kicked out and he was still in 10th grade).

Ok so jumping a few years ahead, he lived with us at the time, and lived in a lot of luxury, my husband and I have quite a bit of money and we always gave him everything, but my husband is different minded than me, he was very poor when he grew up so when my son started acting like this he wanted to kick him out, but I prevented him from doing it, it was all so hard for me especially since about 10 years earlier my other son died in a skateboarding accident and Jake was now my only son and the worst part was that at the time Jake was dating this woman that I really hated and she ended up overdosing on heroin, while my son was in the room. This really devastated him and he started drinking heavily after this.

So, anyway about 3 years ago, after years of enduring Jake’s drinking “incidents” and him just leeching of us without getting a job, it started to get worse, there were incidents everyday, the police were called and he was just ruining our lives, so during one of the incidents, I told him something horrible, to this day I can’t believe that as a mother I said this to my son, but I told him that I wished it had been him that died. When I said this, he just looked at me started crying and left the house, I thought he would be back the next day as always but he wasn’t, a few days later a moving truck came for his stuff and he called me and told me that he wasn’t ever coming back and we got what we wanted.

I started getting really worried and depressed so I hired this woman who used to work for my husband that had a military background to try to keep an eye on him without intervening, I thought it would be temporary, but Jake never came back, the woman I hired (without even telling my husband) just kept telling me that he was on the streets for a few days and then he rented an apartment, but a few months later he got kicked out of there for not being able to pay rent and I tried reaching out to him getting him to come back and he didn’t.

Anyway for the past year he has lived with this woman that he knew in high school and her husband, it is so sad to see him like that, having other people support him. Additionally, the woman I hired told me that he is drinking all day and walking around by himself at night drunk with a liquor bottle and crying. She even took pictures and they made me feel so depressed, now I have a drinking problem, I want him to come back and live with us, but he won’t even take my calls and now I hate my husband because when I told him about it he said he was much happier without Jake.

The reason I’m asking this question now is that about 2 weeks ago my son almost died, had it not been for the woman I hired to keep an eye on him he would have died. So what happened was that he was on his usual drunken night walks and he went into the forest, now I’ve always told the woman I hired to never let him see her no matter what but just follow him, but during his walk in the woods she said he started vomiting and passed out, so after waiting a while she carried him back to her car and took him to the hospital. He had alcohol poisoning! he almost died! he’s back with his friends now but I’m so worried that he’ll die one of these days!

How can I help him or get through to him? I just want him to move back in with us! Now this is hurting me! I’m drinking almost as much as I assume he drinks everyday!

Please give me some advice, I beg you.

By the way- if this is too long for you or you want to make fun of me don’t bother answering.

Hello, I’m just a mother in dire need of any advice anyone could give me, I’ve thought about everything and I can’t find a solution.

Well to get to my question. My son is 32 years old and he has always been a bit rebellious, he never wanted to do his schoolwork, he never had friends until middle school and when he did they were the wrong type of friends, like the type of people that smoke (including pot) have long hair, drink, skip school, wear black clothing, and when this happened I thought it was just a phase, which it was, but the wrong type of friends remained, I just don’t know why, but throughout high school Jake just did not do his school work did not study and just kept partying, showing up drunk at home, smoking pot, bringing girls home and actually sleeping with them in our home, that we didn’t know what to do, we just kept hoping it was a phase until he dropped out of high school when he was 20 (yes he was still in high school at 20 he practically left because they told him that at 21 he was getting kicked out and he was still in 10th grade).

Ok so jumping a few years ahead, he lived with us at the time, and lived in a lot of luxury, my husband and I have quite a bit of money and we always gave him everything, but my husband is different minded than me, he was very poor when he grew up so when my son started acting like this he wanted to kick him out, but I prevented him from doing it, it was all so hard for me especially since about 10 years earlier my other son died in a skateboarding accident and Jake was now my only son and the worst part was that at the time Jake was dating this woman that I really hated and she ended up overdosing on heroin, while my son was in the room. This really devastated him and he started drinking heavily after this.

So, anyway about 3 years ago, after years of enduring Jake’s drinking “incidents” and him just leeching of us without getting a job, it started to get worse, there were incidents everyday, the police were called and he was just ruining our lives, so during one of the incidents, I told him something horrible, to this day I can’t believe that as a mother I said this to my son, but I told him that I wished it had been him that died. When I said this, he just looked at me started crying and left the house, I thought he would be back the next day as always but he wasn’t, a few days later a moving truck came for his stuff and he called me and told me that he wasn’t ever coming back and we got what we wanted.

I started getting really worried and depressed so I hired this woman who used to work for my husband that had a military background to try to keep an eye on him without intervening, I thought it would be temporary, but Jake never came back, the woman I hired (without even telling my husband) just kept telling me that he was on the streets for a few days and then he rented an apartment, but a few months later he got kicked out of there for not being able to pay rent and I tried reaching out to him getting him to come back and he didn’t.

Anyway for the past year he has lived with this woman that he knew in high school and her husband, it is so sad to see him like that, having other people support him. Additionally, the woman I hired told me that he is drinking all day and walking around by himself at night drunk with a liquor bottle and crying. She even took pictures and they made me feel so depressed, now I have a drinking problem, I want him to come back and live with us, but he won’t even take my calls and now I hate my husband because when I told him about it he said he was much happier without Jake.

The reason I’m asking this question now is that about 2 weeks ago my son almost died, had it not been for the woman I hired to keep an eye on him he would have died. So what happened was that he was on his usual drunken night walks and he went into the forest, now I’ve always told the woman I hired to never let him see her no matter what but just follow him, but during his walk in the woods she said he started vomiting and passed out, so after waiting a while she carried him back to her car and took him to the hospital. He had alcohol poisoning! he almost died! he’s back with his friends now but I’m so worried that he’ll die one of these days!

How can I help him or get through to him? I just want him to move back in with us! Now this is hurting me! I’m drinking almost as much as I assume he drinks everyday!

Please give me some advice, I beg you.

By the way- if this is too long for you or you want to make fun of me don’t bother answering.

Am I wrong for being suspicious my GF is lying to me and with another guy?
This past Sunday evening, my GF said she was meeting a “girlfriend” for drinks at the Penthouse, a swank bar at the top of a luxury hotel in Santa Monica called the Huntley. She doesn’t have much money and is unemployed so I thought it a bid odd for girlfriends to meet there as this place is known for charging $12-$15 for drinks and for being a bit of a meatmarket or a place you bring a date.

After a couple of hours or so I called her to see when she was coming home as we live together. She didn’t answer her phone. I called the hotel and was transferred to the bartender. I asked if she saw my GF and described her and said she would be with another girl or two not thinking she might be with a guy. After looking around she said she didn’t see her. My GF called me a few minutes later from the ladies bathroom even though I could hear the bartender from the bar. I asked when she was coming home and she said she would be leaving in about half an hour.

I have been with my GF for about 18 months now. In all this time she has never introduced me to any of her friends and she never answers my calls but always calls me from the ladies room. Also, on at three other occasions, she has said she was out with a girlfriend when I later learned she was actually with a guy. Two of those occasions she was with her ex and on one of those occasions she slept with him.

So yes, I was getting suspicious. When she said she would be coming home in half an hour or so I said I would meet her there. After all, I wasn’t doing anything anyway and I was curious to meet her friend. She said “ok.”

I was at the Penthouse 12 minutes later. I looked everywhere but she was nowhere to be found! I called her phone repeatedly and she didn’t answer. Then after another five minutes she answered. I asked where she was. She said she was driving home! I was like, how could you leave and so fast! Especially when I said I was on my way! After all, they would have to finish their drinks, request the check, give a credit card then sign and leave a tip. She played it off, saying she thought I was joking. I hadn’t been joking even remotely.

So, she now says I’m being crazy. That I was in the wrong and crazy for coming to, as she puts it, “check up” on her. I think something isn’t right here and that she is hiding something from me. Why would someone say they will be there half an or so and then just 12 minutes later be already out of there? Especially when their BF said he was on his way to meet her there?

Am I being played for a fool here? What should I do?

Hello, I’m just a mother in dire need of any advice anyone could give me, I’ve thought about everything and I can’t find a solution.

Well to get to my question. My son is 32 years old and he has always been a bit rebellious, he never wanted to do his schoolwork, he never had friends until middle school and when he did they were the wrong type of friends, like the type of people that smoke (including pot) have long hair, drink, skip school, wear black clothing, and when this happened I thought it was just a phase, which it was, but the wrong type of friends remained, I just don’t know why, but throughout high school Jake just did not do his school work did not study and just kept partying, showing up drunk at home, smoking pot, bringing girls home and actually sleeping with them in our home, that we didn’t know what to do, we just kept hoping it was a phase until he dropped out of high school when he was 20 (yes he was still in high school at 20 he practically left because they told him that at 21 he was getting kicked out and he was still in 10th grade).

Ok so jumping a few years ahead, he lived with us at the time, and lived in a lot of luxury, my husband and I have quite a bit of money and we always gave him everything, but my husband is different minded than me, he was very poor when he grew up so when my son started acting like this he wanted to kick him out, but I prevented him from doing it, it was all so hard for me especially since about 10 years earlier my other son died in a skateboarding accident and Jake was now my only son and the worst part was that at the time Jake was dating this woman that I really hated and she ended up overdosing on heroin, while my son was in the room. This really devastated him and he started drinking heavily after this.

So, anyway about 3 years ago, after years of enduring Jake’s drinking “incidents” and him just leeching of us without getting a job, it started to get worse, there were incidents everyday, the police were called and he was just ruining our lives, so during one of the incidents, I told him something horrible, to this day I can’t believe that as a mother I said this to my son, but I told him that I wished it had been him that died. When I said this, he just looked at me started crying and left the house, I thought he would be back the next day as always but he wasn’t, a few days later a moving truck came for his stuff and he called me and told me that he wasn’t ever coming back and we got what we wanted.

I started getting really worried and depressed so I hired this woman who used to work for my husband that had a military background to try to keep an eye on him without intervening, I thought it would be temporary, but Jake never came back, the woman I hired (without even telling my husband) just kept telling me that he was on the streets for a few days and then he rented an apartment, but a few months later he got kicked out of there for not being able to pay rent and I tried reaching out to him getting him to come back and he didn’t.

Anyway for the past year he has lived with this woman that he knew in high school and her husband, it is so sad to see him like that, having other people support him. Additionally, the woman I hired told me that he is drinking all day and walking around by himself at night drunk with a liquor bottle and crying. She even took pictures and they made me feel so depressed, now I have a drinking problem, I want him to come back and live with us, but he won’t even take my calls and now I hate my husband because when I told him about it he said he was much happier without Jake.

The reason I’m asking this question now is that about 2 weeks ago my son almost died, had it not been for the woman I hired to keep an eye on him he would have died. So what happened was that he was on his usual drunken night walks and he went into the forest, now I’ve always told the woman I hired to never let him see her no matter what but just follow him, but during his walk in the woods she said he started vomiting and passed out, so after waiting a while she carried him back to her car and took him to the hospital. He had alcohol poisoning! he almost died! he’s back with his friends now but I’m so worried that he’ll die one of these days!

How can I help him or get through to him? I just want him to move back in with us! Now this is hurting me! I’m drinking almost as much as I assume he drinks everyday!

Please give me some advice, I beg you.

By the way- if this is too long for you or you want to make fun of me don’t bother answering.

Hello, I’m just a mother in dire need of any advice anyone could give me, I’ve thought about everything and I can’t find a solution.

Well to get to my question. My son is 32 years old and he has always been a bit rebellious, he never wanted to do his schoolwork, he never had friends until middle school and when he did they were the wrong type of friends, like the type of people that smoke (including pot) have long hair, drink, skip school, wear black clothing, and when this happened I thought it was just a phase, which it was, but the wrong type of friends remained, I just don’t know why, but throughout high school Jake just did not do his school work did not study and just kept partying, showing up drunk at home, smoking pot, bringing girls home and actually sleeping with them in our home, that we didn’t know what to do, we just kept hoping it was a phase until he dropped out of high school when he was 20 (yes he was still in high school at 20 he practically left because they told him that at 21 he was getting kicked out and he was still in 10th grade).

Ok so jumping a few years ahead, he lived with us at the time, and lived in a lot of luxury, my husband and I have quite a bit of money and we always gave him everything, but my husband is different minded than me, he was very poor when he grew up so when my son started acting like this he wanted to kick him out, but I prevented him from doing it, it was all so hard for me especially since about 10 years earlier my other son died in a skateboarding accident and Jake was now my only son and the worst part was that at the time Jake was dating this woman that I really hated and she ended up overdosing on heroin, while my son was in the room. This really devastated him and he started drinking heavily after this.

So, anyway about 3 years ago, after years of enduring Jake’s drinking “incidents” and him just leeching of us without getting a job, it started to get worse, there were incidents everyday, the police were called and he was just ruining our lives, so during one of the incidents, I told him something horrible, to this day I can’t believe that as a mother I said this to my son, but I told him that I wished it had been him that died. When I said this, he just looked at me started crying and left the house, I thought he would be back the next day as always but he wasn’t, a few days later a moving truck came for his stuff and he called me and told me that he wasn’t ever coming back and we got what we wanted.

I started getting really worried and depressed so I hired this woman who used to work for my husband that had a military background to try to keep an eye on him without intervening, I thought it would be temporary, but Jake never came back, the woman I hired (without even telling my husband) just kept telling me that he was on the streets for a few days and then he rented an apartment, but a few months later he got kicked out of there for not being able to pay rent and I tried reaching out to him getting him to come back and he didn’t.

Anyway for the past year he has lived with this woman that he knew in high school and her husband, it is so sad to see him like that, having other people support him. Additionally, the woman I hired told me that he is drinking all day and walking around by himself at night drunk with a liquor bottle and crying. She even took pictures and they made me feel so depressed, now I have a drinking problem, I want him to come back and live with us, but he won’t even take my calls and now I hate my husband because when I told him about it he said he was much happier without Jake.

The reason I’m asking this question now is that about 2 weeks ago my son almost died, had it not been for the woman I hired to keep an eye on him he would have died. So what happened was that he was on his usual drunken night walks and he went into the forest, now I’ve always told the woman I hired to never let him see her no matter what but just follow him, but during his walk in the woods she said he started vomiting and passed out, so after waiting a while she carried him back to her car and took him to the hospital. He had alcohol poisoning! he almost died! he’s back with his friends now but I’m so worried that he’ll die one of these days!

How can I help him or get through to him? I just want him to move back in with us! Now this is hurting me! I’m drinking almost as much as I assume he drinks everyday!

Please give me some advice, I beg you.

By the way- if this is too long for you or you want to make fun of me don’t bother answering.

I’ve started writing this, and so far I’ve only done about 6 pages, but I’m starting to think that the plot sounds really silly. So anyway…
In our world, everyone has a Guardian angel from their first day of primary (or elementary, for you Americans) school, and they have one right up until their wedding day (or until the person dies of old age if they never marry!), which is when the Guardians retire to the Sky Kingdom for living the rest of their lives in luxury. Angles age just as humans do, but they live for slightly longer, so the Guardian is 5 when their human is, however their brains are developed a lot more than our own. If the Guardian fails to protect their human (basically if the human dies) or if they let their human see them, whether they be in angel or human form, they turn into Fallen angels; they are to never see the Sky Kingdom, and they are given black wings and are forced to live the rest of their lives on earth. The human gets a new Guardian.
All angels can see each other, whether they choose to be visible or not (angels can turn invisible) and they can choose when they want their wings out or not.
Introduce Maleficent, a 12 year old Guardian who has been assigned to Harry. When she saves him from drowning in the sea when he’s on holiday in France she also lets herself be seen to everyone. So she gets turned into a Fallen angel.
5 years later, Harry is 17 and meets Millie when he’s taking pictures of Amy, the girl he likes, doing ballet for his art project. Millie and Amy are friends and Millie tells Harry that Amy likes him. So they organize a ‘date’ at McDonald’s. Harry gets his best friend, Daniel, to come along so it isn’t awkward, so Harry gets Amy to bring Millie along too.
Daniel and Millie really hit it off and before you know it they’re going out. Harry and Amy are getting along fine as well in their relationship.
One night, when Harry is on his way home from a double date he gets attacked, and a winged creature flies down and helps him. But he can’t quite see who it is because he’s got concussion. But Harry doesn’t stop talking about it and he has to see it again.
The following week, Harry and Daniel both almost get mugged (after Harry’s suggestion to hang about a dark alleyway until something bad happens), the winged creature appears again, and when Harry grabs its leg as it tries to fly away, it takes him with it until it stops at an old warehouse. And he discovers it’s Millie! So she confesses everything (about how her real name is Maleficent and the stuff on the beach) and she tells him that his current Guardian, Maxwell, is shifty and isn’t to be trusted and that she’s been looking out for him since she turned into a Fallen angel. She can see Maxwell but Harry can’t.

And they set out to stop him, without the others finding out. But, of course, with all the time they have been spending together, it can’t be good for Daniel or Amy…

Here’s where I need the help!!
What could Maxwell be actually doing that’s bad?? Could he be friends with some group of Fallen Angels and Millie’s seen them all?? And how could they stop him??
If there’s anything that sounds particularly cliched or bad, please let me know how I can change it!!??

Hello, I’m just a mother in dire need of any advice anyone could give me, I’ve thought about everything and I can’t find a solution.

Well to get to my question. My son is 32 years old and he has always been a bit rebellious, he never wanted to do his schoolwork, he never had friends until middle school and when he did they were the wrong type of friends, like the type of people that smoke (including pot) have long hair, drink, skip school, wear black clothing, and when this happened I thought it was just a phase, which it was, but the wrong type of friends remained, I just don’t know why, but throughout high school Jake just did not do his school work did not study and just kept partying, showing up drunk at home, smoking pot, bringing girls home and actually sleeping with them in our home, that we didn’t know what to do, we just kept hoping it was a phase until he dropped out of high school when he was 20 (yes he was still in high school at 20 he practically left because they told him that at 21 he was getting kicked out and he was still in 10th grade).

Ok so jumping a few years ahead, he lived with us at the time, and lived in a lot of luxury, my husband and I have quite a bit of money and we always gave him everything, but my husband is different minded than me, he was very poor when he grew up so when my son started acting like this he wanted to kick him out, but I prevented him from doing it, it was all so hard for me especially since about 10 years earlier my other son died in a skateboarding accident and Jake was now my only son and the worst part was that at the time Jake was dating this woman that I really hated and she ended up overdosing on heroin, while my son was in the room. This really devastated him and he started drinking heavily after this.

So, anyway about 3 years ago, after years of enduring Jake’s drinking “incidents” and him just leeching of us without getting a job, it started to get worse, there were incidents everyday, the police were called and he was just ruining our lives, so during one of the incidents, I told him something horrible, to this day I can’t believe that as a mother I said this to my son, but I told him that I wished it had been him that died. When I said this, he just looked at me started crying and left the house, I thought he would be back the next day as always but he wasn’t, a few days later a moving truck came for his stuff and he called me and told me that he wasn’t ever coming back and we got what we wanted.

I started getting really worried and depressed so I hired this woman who used to work for my husband that had a military background to try to keep an eye on him without intervening, I thought it would be temporary, but Jake never came back, the woman I hired (without even telling my husband) just kept telling me that he was on the streets for a few days and then he rented an apartment, but a few months later he got kicked out of there for not being able to pay rent and I tried reaching out to him getting him to come back and he didn’t.

Anyway for the past year he has lived with this woman that he knew in high school and her husband, it is so sad to see him like that, having other people support him. Additionally, the woman I hired told me that he is drinking all day and walking around by himself at night drunk with a liquor bottle and crying. She even took pictures and they made me feel so depressed, now I have a drinking problem, I want him to come back and live with us, but he won’t even take my calls and now I hate my husband because when I told him about it he said he was much happier without Jake.

The reason I’m asking this question now is that about 2 weeks ago my son almost died, had it not been for the woman I hired to keep an eye on him he would have died. So what happened was that he was on his usual drunken night walks and he went into the forest, now I’ve always told the woman I hired to never let him see her no matter what but just follow him, but during his walk in the woods she said he started vomiting and passed out, so after waiting a while she carried him back to her car and took him to the hospital. He had alcohol poisoning! he almost died! he’s back with his friends now but I’m so worried that he’ll die one of these days!

How can I help him or get through to him? I just want him to move back in with us! Now this is hurting me! I’m drinking almost as much as I assume he drinks everyday!

Please give me some advice, I beg you.

By the way- if this is too long for you or you want to make fun of me don’t bother answering.

Yeah, i am single this valentines day…sadly i haven’t had the luxury of having a girlfriend :/

Instead, im going to stay at home and watch a buffy marathon with my two dogs, and eat low-fat ice cream…..Ok yeah its sad, but i don’t really care…

What are your plans for celebrating valentines day?

What are your plans for celebrating anti-valentines day?
Oh yeah, i was meant to put this in the LGBT section, incase you were wondering.

I am les, so this is pretty much aimed at the LGBT community :]

Hello, I’m just a mother in dire need of any advice anyone could give me, I’ve thought about everything and I can’t find a solution.

Well to get to my question. My son is 32 years old and he has always been a bit rebellious, he never wanted to do his schoolwork, he never had friends until middle school and when he did they were the wrong type of friends, like the type of people that smoke (including pot) have long hair, drink, skip school, wear black clothing, and when this happened I thought it was just a phase, which it was, but the wrong type of friends remained, I just don’t know why, but throughout high school Jake just did not do his school work did not study and just kept partying, showing up drunk at home, smoking pot, bringing girls home and actually sleeping with them in our home, that we didn’t know what to do, we just kept hoping it was a phase until he dropped out of high school when he was 20 (yes he was still in high school at 20 he practically left because they told him that at 21 he was getting kicked out and he was still in 10th grade).

Ok so jumping a few years ahead, he lived with us at the time, and lived in a lot of luxury, my husband and I have quite a bit of money and we always gave him everything, but my husband is different minded than me, he was very poor when he grew up so when my son started acting like this he wanted to kick him out, but I prevented him from doing it, it was all so hard for me especially since about 10 years earlier my other son died in a skateboarding accident and Jake was now my only son and the worst part was that at the time Jake was dating this woman that I really hated and she ended up overdosing on heroin, while my son was in the room. This really devastated him and he started drinking heavily after this.

So, anyway about 3 years ago, after years of enduring Jake’s drinking “incidents” and him just leeching of us without getting a job, it started to get worse, there were incidents everyday, the police were called and he was just ruining our lives, so during one of the incidents, I told him something horrible, to this day I can’t believe that as a mother I said this to my son, but I told him that I wished it had been him that died. When I said this, he just looked at me started crying and left the house, I thought he would be back the next day as always but he wasn’t, a few days later a moving truck came for his stuff and he called me and told me that he wasn’t ever coming back and we got what we wanted.

I started getting really worried and depressed so I hired this woman who used to work for my husband that had a military background to try to keep an eye on him without intervening, I thought it would be temporary, but Jake never came back, the woman I hired (without even telling my husband) just kept telling me that he was on the streets for a few days and then he rented an apartment, but a few months later he got kicked out of there for not being able to pay rent and I tried reaching out to him getting him to come back and he didn’t.

Anyway for the past year he has lived with this woman that he knew in high school and her husband, it is so sad to see him like that, having other people support him. Additionally, the woman I hired told me that he is drinking all day and walking around by himself at night drunk with a liquor bottle and crying. She even took pictures and they made me feel so depressed, now I have a drinking problem, I want him to come back and live with us, but he won’t even take my calls and now I hate my husband because when I told him about it he said he was much happier without Jake.

The reason I’m asking this question now is that about 2 weeks ago my son almost died, had it not been for the woman I hired to keep an eye on him he would have died. So what happened was that he was on his usual drunken night walks and he went into the forest, now I’ve always told the woman I hired to never let him see her no matter what but just follow him, but during his walk in the woods she said he started vomiting and passed out, so after waiting a while she carried him back to her car and took him to the hospital. He had alcohol poisoning! he almost died! he’s back with his friends now but I’m so worried that he’ll die one of these days!

How can I help him or get through to him? I just want him to move back in with us! Now this is hurting me! I’m drinking almost as much as I assume he drinks everyday!

Please give me some advice, I beg you.

By the way- if this is too long for you or you want to make fun of me don’t bother answering.