Open Question: How can i be a parent if i don’t have kids yet?

25/01/12

How am i expected to be a parent when i don’t have kids of my own yet. I mean raising my brother is not the same as having a child of my own. My half brother is14 and I’m 33 My mom had him when I was 16.They both died 6 years ago I was the only one to take him. My wife and I have no children of our own and we’re still unbelievably heartbroken about that. My wife and i work full time but she does the lions share of the responsibility with him. I feel like I resent him because him being here is a reminder of something i want but i don’t have yet. I’m not a father yet but i still have all the responsibility of one.

My brother’s dad hated me the man tortured me every chance he got. My mom spoiled my little brother all the time and he’s a total brat. I was pretty much estranged from my mom and her family, but when they died my little brother came here. I mean this man hated me and now i have to raise his child? My Wife and I don’t Spank or yell but we talk to him and take away his electronics. His 24-7 medical needs are draining. I’ve been neglecting my wife being so focused on him. My brother has put a strain on my life. i feel horrible raising a special needs child has been taking a toll on me. I know he didn’t ask to be here. We have no friends so i can’t call anyone to help us out when we need a little break. sending him away isn’t an option Just unsure what to do, advice?

please be kind , no nasty posts i just need friendly advice thanks.

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