Open Question: How to deal with my boyfreinds evil younger sister?

25/01/12

My boyfreind of 2 years has a horrible younger sister. we are in our twenties and she is 2 years younger than us. Since day one she hasn’t liked me because she was more attached to his ex.. I can kind of understand that cz if my brother got a new gf it would take a while to adjust to the new one.. but surely after 2 years she would have become used to the fact that i’ve been around a while, and going to stick around a lot longer than she would like. She has always tried to exclude me by suggesting “family only” trips, weekends, dinners, outings, everything. She even went as far as telling me to leave and go home because they were going to have a family dinner and i wasn’t allowed to be there. She always talks about family only things infront of me, almost like shes trying to rub it in that im not considered family and i wont be included. Im sure if she had a bf it would be different.

She claims that i have pushed all his friends away (not true), that ive changed him, in a bad way, and that hes sees too much of me and shes getting sick of me being at his house. We would move out together if we could afford to but its not an option at the moment..

recently we all went away together, and she was so horrible to me that I went home a week early because I couldnt handle any more of her manipulative behaviour, and constant abuse. and now she hasnt spoken to me since. she ignores me when ever we are in the same room together, and told her brother( my bf) that im the problem, and if i didnt have such a “tone” she wouldnt be so mean.

I have been having a hard enough time at home with my parents and so have been relying on my bf for support. she is now saying that shes sick of me compaining and being upset, and that im just after attention and sympathy from his family. She has no idea what its like to have real problems in life because her mother worshipps the ground she walks on. she is incerdibly spoilt and never worked a full day in her life. she still doesnt work, insisting shes too busy, plus she gets $200 a week from her parents and unlimited use of daddys credit card so why would she work??

Im not jealous of her life of luxury, since i got my first job at 14 iv had to pay for everything myself.. it sucks compared to her siutaion but atleast i appreciate the money I have, and work hard to support myself. and atleast im not a spoilt brat.

I have supported her countless times when my bf has been mean to her, which has caused some problems in my relationship, but im sticking up for what i feel is right and sometimes he is a bit hard on her. But she just doesnt appreciate any help or support i have given her.

Bascally its horrible being around her because she is either insulting me or ignoring me and i dont know how to deal with her. I cant confront her because then she will turn their parents against me because she is so manipulative. she will twist every word i say, or just lie, to make me sound like the bad guy. My bf has already tried to talk to her but she just deflected everything off her and put all the blame on me. I know she wants me out but unfortunately for her im going to be around a lot longer than she would like.

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