Open Question: Mum becoming abusive?

30/04/11

Really need some help. I’m 22 years old and for years been close to my mum but the older I get, she seems to becoming verbally and on occasions physically abusive to me and its really taking its toll on me and upsetting me.

Today me, mum and dad took the dogs for a walk and I’m in wheelchair and the dog’s lead got tangled by accident, not my fault because the dog decided to tangle himself, she snatched the lead off me and called me a idiot and my dad didn’t even say anything and when I defended myself and said “At least I’m not a cocky cow” she came up to me and smacked me so hard on my arm and the hit stung and all I got from my dad “Emma, show your mother respect” but its fine for her to call me a idiot?

I didn’t talk to her for rest of the walk and was close to tears because she did what she did. The only person that has defended me is my grandmother and she has talked to my mum the way she treats me and all I get from my mum “Well she gets on my f*cking nerves” well thanks mum, I’m your daughter and I get on your nerves? I have no brothers are sisters to talk to, all my friends have jobs so don’t see them.

When I got home, we recently got a puppy and he happened to pee on the carpet and I didn’t see as I was doing something and she goes “F*ck sake, he’s p*ssed. Why didn’t you watch him you idiot?” I didn’t answer and she cleaned it up. I look after our puppy Monday to Thursday while she’s working and dad also, its not going to hurt her to do her share Friday and the weekend is it?

I don’t understand why she’s only starting to behave like this as I became an adult. I’m disabled and I always try my best with everything in the house and outside of the house, I’m looking for work after leaving college of 5 years, it just seems like NOTHING is good enough. Besides by calling me a idiot, she calls me a retard, she makes fun because I don’t have a boyfriend, accuses me of being gay which I’m not, she calls me lazy, you name it, she’s called me it.

Someone advice would be nice sometimes I get so close to lashing out at her.

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