Open Question: What if you didn’t lose your job on purpose and paying child support with other kids at home?

31/10/09

Ok, I lost my job and I am not collecting unemployment because my past boss is lying about how I lost my job and I’m having to appeal for unemployment benefits. So, I have no income and two children that live with me and one child that I pay child support. I have been paying regularly for 9 years now with no problems. Now I have no money and I’ve kept a record of the many jobs I’ve applied for, so I am trying, and no not just any job will work because I have a house to pay for, two other kids at home,and bills to take care of as well as child support. So, I’m not a deadbeat, I chose to have more children when I got married because I have a right to have more kids with a woman I love and I could afford it at the time. They still want child support of course, but guess what, the kids at my house are suffering as well….I can’t pull money out of thin air and they want to take all the money for one child and let the others just deal. I don’t quite understand. My oldest son’s mother has never worked or contributed to his well being personally…she was allowed to have more kids…2 to be exact. Her husband makes good money and when I lose my job my oldest son doesn’t get thrown out on the street or have no money, but the kids in my house don’t have that luxury. So are there any options for me as far as child support is concerned…I already tried to get the payment lowered temporarily, but was denied even though I provided proof of why I was unemployed, record of job past, record of jobs applied for, and everything. I just think it is a little unfair. I didn’t try to stop paying, just lower it while I look for a job. My family at home right now is really the only one suffering…trust me, my ex just bought a boat and camper while I’m looking for a job. My oldest son is not hurting right now.
Also, I’ve always been a good father to my oldest son and even tried to get shared custody, but well, North Carolina doesn’t do that unless my ex is on drugs or something. Not to mention that my ex got pregnant by going off the pill to get me to marry her…I know it takes two and I should have had protection myself, but still that is pretty low to bring a child into the world through deception…I was 19 when this happened and yes she admitted to going off the pill on purpose after I found out she was pregnant, so I wasn’t exactly being smart and I take responsibility for my actions, but come on.
The question is for those who didn’t see it….is there anything I can do when I can’t pay at the moment and was denied temporary relief?….also, I am willing to take any job, trust me, I have applied to every fast food joint out there and I don’t think they take me seriously because I’m overqualified or something.
Sometimes you can’t just walk out the door and say I want a job and it come to you….it’s easier said than done in this economy….I am applying everywhere…believe me…I want a job

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