Open Question: Why do my parents favor all my other siblings over me?

27/06/10

I just came back from a wedding of the century. I am happy for my sister and her new husband, she found a good man and I wish so many good things for her. I have to admit that I am jealous because I know my dad wouldn’t do anything like that for me. I don’t want to sound like a bad person, or selfish but there is a story around this on so hear me out.
For the last few years I have been struggling to get out of monster debt that I accumulated due to cancer and cancer treatment. My dad is in a relatively wealthy position in life and loves to show it. Luxury cars and huge house equipped with the largest big screen T.V’s. When I asked for help he picked up my car payment for a few months and paid my electric bill four times and made sure I heard his displeasure. I was grateful for his help but ashamed to take it but I got through it.
A while ago my brother lost his job because the economy fell in the toilet and I watched my dad move my brother into his house with his two children with open arms, it was a happy day for him. A year has passed and my 35 year old brother still has no job because he hasn’t looked for one. My dad is paying his bills and is making excuses as to why it’s not his fault and how wrong I am in saying he should have a job, pay his own bills. I go there and my mother who is over sixty is being a mother to his two children and I tell her that he should be doing the things that she’s doing, she Tell’s me that she doesn’t mind doing it and that it’s okay. I figure whatever you know as long as my nephews are okay and taken care of that’s all that matters.
I hit a snag in my life and I went to my father to help me keep it and help me catch up because cancer is expensive. He look me dead in the face and said, “sorry, your going to have to figure it out.” I made it through those dark times without the assistance of my dad but it was SO hard. I said whatever maybe he’s struggling and maybe he can’t afford it. Today I got back from my sisters wedding and when peeking over my dad’s shoulder at my dad’s palm the price tag for this wedding could pay off three home mortgages at least but I didn’t say anything because this is my sisters day and I didn’t want to ruin it for her. I have brought it to their attention before but they tell me the same thing, “We love all our children equally.” I believe this to be a false statement and I feel excluded from the family. We had some hard times and disagreements over things in life but never serious enough to merit exclusion. I have noticed a few things when I go to my parents home and that is there is a picture of everyone in the family on the wall except for me, all my brothers wives and even a few of their past girlfriends, but none of mine anywhere. Why are they doing this?
I’m not a greedy man and this isn’t because I even want their money

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