Open Question: Why does he feel like he’s a disappointment and how can I help him heal?

29/11/11

My boyfriend has been going through hell lately. Mainly with his family, and it’s taking its toll on him. He’s trying to be strong, but you can see him growing weary everyday. He’s pouring himself into his motorcycle club events, instead of taking time to deal with his issues and heal. Well Saturday, I decided to do something nice for him. I decorated the bedroom the same way I did when I surprised him with a hotel suite for his birthday, and even had the same CD I made for him playing. Well he didn’t get home until late. He walked up to me and apologized for messing up the night, because he don’t ever listen to me when I say he need to spend more time at home healing instead of with his club. I told him it was ok, I accepted his apology and again said it was ok. When he walked into the room, I heard him say, “dang, I’m always messing up”. Well the next day, he walked around feeling as though I was disappointed in him and I was upset, which wasn’t the case. I just want him to know and understand that I’m here for him to help him get through what he’s going through. I have reassured him again yesterday and early this morning that it’s ok, and I’m not disappointed. What can I do to help him through his issues (and there’s a lot, from his brother, mother, cousin and a good fried from over 18 years ago). He’s been feeling this way for about a month and a half. Sometimes I feel like I’m the issue and he’s tired of me and ready to leave the relationship. I’m confused and don’t know what to do…help, please?

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