Open Question: would you answer yes or no with a brief explanation for your answer…..will try to mke this long story short?

30/07/09

had baby with boyfriend of 8years….weve never lived together, ive got my own house, he lives with his brother…..when baby was 4months old he said he wanted to make a proper go of things and move in with me…fine, i was happy to give it a go……it lasted 2 weeks….he clashed horribly with 1 of my older sons (nearly 15), he’s a lovely happy helpful lad, i give him a lot of leeway because he does so much for me and turn a blind eye to things like smoking…anyhoot, the b/f literally dun nothing but pick on him, and bless my boy, i watched him bite his tongue and keep out of his way just to keep the peace, well to cut a long story short, there was a big bust up after 2 weeks, bf actually swore at my son and gave me an ultimatum….either i sent my son 2 live with his dad or he was leaving and going back to his brothers….well thats a no-brainer, so told bf that i respected his decision to go ‘home’ and at least we’d given it a go…..things were difficult between us….we agreed that he wud take the baby 1 day in the week overnight, bringing him home in the morning b4 work and also on a friday night, bringing him home saturday morning….anyway….heres the thing….he’s stuck to that but insists he loves me and wants to be a couple….his brother picks the baby up in the week so the only time i see him is literallly in the 5mins it takes to drop the baby off in the morning during the week, and when he brings the baby back saturday morning he wants the 3 of us to spend the day together and always wants to sleep over mine on a saturday and sunday night….it sorta feels to me like he cant/wont be a proper boyfriend…but wants the the luxury of my home ( my bed) at the weekend to relax and av a drink , watch my sky+ and spend some ‘family time’ with our baby…dont get me wrong, he’ll buy dinner 4 us saturay night and do a sunday roast, always gets me a bottle of wine and anything else i want…heres the question…is he doing the best that he can, should i accept him for the person that he is and just do my own thing mon-fri, spending my weekend with him, or is this pathetic and unacceptable and way beneath me as a quite lovely lady….yes or no…for or against…..opinions much appreciated

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