Resolved Question: Am I being too sensitive?

31/05/11

I’ve been having some issues with one of my good friends lately and I don’t know If I’m being too sensitive. We just got done with our first year of College and halfway through the year my family moved out of state. Over winter break, my friend said It would be fine if I stayed with him and his family. His mom, dad, brother and I get along really well and have a good time; over winter break there were no problems whatsoever.

After the semester ended, I found myself in need of a home for the summer, for which my friend volunteered his place to me, and seeing how winter break was, I accepted. I have been back in town for about 2 weeks and I’ve started to notice some subtle hints in his behavior. When we are around his extended family and our friends he is mostly fine, but when we will be at his house with his brother, or just another one of my friends, he has started to become increasingly rude and mean. He will pick arguments with me over opinion based questions (I.E. Abortion) and I will attempt to have a civil conversation with him about such topics. He has not pursued secondary schooling and I am more than confident that I have more knowledge than him in the given fields of argument, but that’s not the point. During the argument he will belittle my opinion and make me feel stupid. On other occasions he will say things that are incorrect without any regard for my feelings on the subject, or even my input. For example, I will help out around the house so that his mother and father feel more comfortable with me living there (I.E. Asking his mom what she would like me to do while she is at work the next day/ making a list). He will just state incorrect things around his parents. “You slept all afternoon” - thereby making me sound lazy, when in fact I did all the things his mother had asked me to do the night before.

I guess what I am trying to say is that after the last semester ended and we have been staying at his place, he has started to belittle me, make me feel stupid, and be blatantly disrespectful to me. When I attempt to tell him these things I just walk away from the conversation feeling stupid and worthless. I feel like he is almost sick with it, by that I mean I feel like he gets some sort of pleasure out of making me feel so worthless. I am a very outgoing individual with lots of social obligations, and most of the time he would rather play video games at his house. In terms of respect, I have been nothing less than a Paragon of behavior around his home, and his parents. What could I have possibly done to make him treat me like this? Am I over-reacting?

Thanks for taking the time to talk to me about this. The last two weeks are really starting to take their toll on me. I don’t sleep very well anymore, and I feel like I want to just avoid him altogether, but I’m staying in his house. He knows I have no where else to go.

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