Resolved Question: Big problems with my fiance :( very important please help .. thanks!?

28/02/10

I am sorry for the long story but its really important.. Thanks

I and this guy are together since 3.5 yrs. I went to UK for higher studies, He went to australia for his studies in the year 2006. We were into long distance relationship. He made me cry a lot when I was in UK. He use to break up every 2nd day with me.. Call me with bad words like fuck off, Fuck you, Get the fuck out of my life and all. I use to listen to every abuse calmly. My UK has been destroyed forever as now also if I recall, i have tears in my eyes. He had his brother and relatives in Australia, a home, a luxury car and happiness. On the other hand, I had no one in UK, not even a friend, Stayed in isolated hostel where I use to miss my family and him. I use to call him, he disconnects my call, he use to abuse me and make me cry almost everyday of my life.. and my weight got 50 from 60.. I got ugly and useless. I lost my confidence and use to cry and depressed. Later I came to India, we were still together. In 2008 I went to Australia as my company sent me there for work on business visa. I was very happy as i dint see him for long. He was studing at that time and was a bit worried for his financial problems what he gave me the reason for his excuse and for hurting me badly. He use to beat me up, He use to abuse me like anything. He use to stare me in public when I tried speaking to him. He doesnt evn wanted to answer my calls. He got irritated by my voice evn. I dint see any happiness on his face and sumtimes he was too sweet to me. But that was only sumtimes.. i stayed in Australia for 3 months and he made it a disastor for me. I cried like hell and praying everyday to my GOD that please change him, please show me his love.. but that happened very rare sat 10% only.

I came back to India and it got worse. He dint answer my call and banh the phone on my face, abuse me like anything, abused my mom,my dad and everyone.. I use to cry.. he dint evn speak to me for full full months. I was shattered and devastated. My dad came into the picture, i told him everything and he asked me to leave him. I did the same. I was into depression for 4 months, crying turning whole night into morning… I still get tears in my eyes if i remm UK and these 4 months.. He use to break up every 2nd day for about 2 years. I left him

After 5 onths he came back to India where we both belong to.. He apologized to me , my dad a lot many times. and my dad actually asked me to give him 1 chance. I said ok.. We got together again. He was to sweet for few months and we got engaged. Now after engagement I could see the anger and abuse symtoms again and i got too scared remmembering my past which was disastrous. I discussed it with my dad and my dad spoke to him. now he is playing tricks, he is too sweet to my dad but shouts at me like anything. He made a mistake and I said it is ur fault competely not mine, he got so annoyed that he abused me and said you can never tyake me for a ride.. He was like if i am bad i am a worst nightmare just bacause of the reason that i dint take abuseive language and stopped him..I said i am no more ur old girl. I have changed and will not take this kinda shit anymore. He got pissed off and stated to shout. I dint speak to him for 4 days and now he is like m sorry i ll change and all. I said u said sorry earlier also and I gave you 1 chance. I trusted on you and got engaged. I told him that I am not his property or slave..He is dominating also. He puts his thought on me and if i express my thoughts he argue with me and say no thats is not right, this is not right..

He gives emotional talks to my father and my dad id like may be is too at heart.. he is just an angry man.. But after marrige I have to go to australia and I would not have anyone over there.. i m too scared of him. what should i do?? Could any one please give me a wise answer. PPl around me says just call off the engagement.

Should i?? Will he get worse in his abuses and voice.. Should I call the engagement off??

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