My little half brother is14. I’m 33 years old. His father was 83 and my mom was 37. My mom had him when I was 16. After they both died 6 years ago I was the only family to take him. My wife and I have no children of our own and we’re still unbelievably heartbroken about that. My wife and i work full time jobs but she does the lions share of the responsibility with him. All of his school stuff, dr’s stuff and parenting stuff she takes care of.

I started to hate him and his dad when I was around 17. It was like my mom didn’t even care about me anymore. All she cared about was her husband who treated her like crap and my little brother. My brother’s dad hated me. When i was in high school this man tortured me every chance he got including beating the snot out of me. My mom spoiled my little brother all the time and let him act like a total brat. She gave him all the attention and pretty much ignored me and treated me like i wasn’t even her son. I left home when i was 20 and was pretty much estranged from my mom and her family when i got married. I never communicated with them, but when they died my little brother had no other family but me. I mean this man hated me and now i have to raise his child?

Now my wife and I are Raising him but before he moved in with us I really didn’t spend any time around him. He has( MR, EPILEPSY and CHIARI MALFORMATION, LENNOX GESTAULT SYNDROME, ADHD - and I’m finding it really difficult to cope with his extremely horrible grades, Lying, bad behavior,and destroying everything in our home and not caring about anything and he has no remorse for doing so, leaving nasty things around the house, he has Impulsive behavior, he’s always lying and stealing and he constantly disrespects us both. Sending him away is not an option because we have no other family members.

My Wife and I don’t Spank ,or hit,or yell but we talk to him and take away electronics like his laptop and I-pod. I love my brother but at the same time i hate him because raising him is 24-7 because of his medical needs. I feel like i’ve begun neglecting my wife because we are so focused on him. My brother has put a strain on my life. i feel horrible because the stress of raising a special needs child has been taking a toll on us. I feel bad because he didn’t ask to be here. We have no friends so i can’t call anyone to help us out when we need a little break. Just unsure what to do, advice?

Please no nasty posts i need advice. be Kind Please.

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