Resolved Question: What should i do? Mum is alcoholic.?

27/06/10

Myself and my younger brother (im 16 hes 13) live with my mum who binge drinks id say 3-4 times a week. We see our dad at weekends, he knows about what goes on at home but because he has mild form or ausperges he doesnt really register that its actually happening until its him that she fights. She is extremely verbally and sometimes physically abusive and will often place the blame for all of the bad things that have happened in her life on me and my brother.
I have always taken it upon myself to deal with her so my brother doesnt have to and its starting to take its toll on me. For example, i thought i was coping well until a recent one of her ‘episodes’ which caused me to research children of alcoholics. Whilst reading the affects on children i realised i ticked every box (lieing, overachieving etc etc).
I have spoken to so many people about this (friends, family, teachers) but although theyre happy to listen they cant exactly do anything. Also, talking about it doesnt change anything and so doesnt make me feel any better. as well as this, many family members recieve numerous drunken calls from her explaining how awful and rebellious i am (im not in the slightest by the way) and how iv been going out of my way to ‘manipulate’ her life. I’ve tried telling mum how it makes me feel etc but unfortunately she doesnt remember what she did the night before and so its only us that has to deal with what she says or does.
I am at a point where i dont see any way to change this for the better. I have tried to ignore it/concentrate on school, friends and getting on with my life but it is becoming exhausting having to seperate school and home.
As far as her getting help is concerned…shes already having councilling but it has made no improvement whatsoever. Besides, im tired of thinking about her all the time…surely it should be about me and my brother? we didnt as for this.

Please reply with any help/advice/support. I am sick of hearing ‘I promise next time it will be different’…

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