Voting Question: Brother seems to refuse to grow up. PLEASE HELP! [Long, but I would appreciate advice. PLEASE]?

30/06/11

Hi. I am an 18 year old female who recently graduated from high school. I have two other siblings, a brother a sister. My sister is 13 and my brother is 22. We lost our mother 9 months ago and it has taken a toll on our family in the WORST way. Our younger sister and her father used to live with us, but they no longer do due to the fact that my brother and my sister’s father has a huge blow out and it was her father’s decision to stay with him although he is a major alcoholic and does not look out for his daughter. Now she has turned into being a complete whore, a smoker, drinker and frequent ditcher in school and she is 13, it seemed like her bad behavior has trippled since my mother has died and she feels like she can get away with ANYTHING since her father is drink 24/7. Everyone know it’s unhealthy for her to stay with someone who is an alcoholic, but us, her siblings can’t do ANYTHING about it, so so be it.

Okay, so they left, now next who was left is my little nephew who is 3 months old, my brother’s girlfriend, myself and my brother. Recently, my brother and his girlfriend had a fallout because my brother quit a job that she had found him that makes $2,000/month after ONLY two days. He KNOWS we need help with the house, so since he refused that job, she left. She visits frequently with the baby, but the baby nor her permanently stays there and I’m unsure if she is any longer help us out with the bills.

Okay, so they left, and now that’s left is me and my brother in this big house. Our house is going to be taken away because we recently found out my mother owed $11,000 in property taxes and there isn’t anything we can do about that. I am the middle child, the ONLY one without a father in their life since day one, I don’t have any close relatives, so truly, my mother, my brother and my sister was the only family I had, and now that everyone is apart, it’s got me done and very depressed lately.

I have chosen for my own sake to move in with my boyfriend and his family for the time being next month until I can find my own apartment. I just recently graduated from school and just out of loss where to go, I feel like I’m on my own. Work right now is an option before a college or university. I’m trying to find a job, but no luck. On the other hand, once I leave the house, it will only leave my brother who is a irresponsible, selfish, all-about-games-weed-and-drinks guy. I am VERY VERY afraid to leave this house knowing he will be the only one living there. I have been the only one cleaning and sadly picking up after him and he is VERY VERY dirty. I’m afraid, he’ll invite all his low-life friends one weekend or whatever (4th of July is coming up and I think I’m gonna be gone by then) and get drunk and ruin everything we have in that house or the house will get abandoned or bills won’t get paid. This is insane, because I shouldn’t have to worry about a grown man and my decision upon hesitating to leave shouldn’t be based on some 22 year old adult who will possibly ruin everything I AM VERY AFRAID! I rather no one live in the house if I’m not going to! I spoke with my counselor about this situation before I graduated HS and she told me that I should NOT have to worry about him, but I don’t, I worry about the house and the possible drama he could bring. I know my mom is so disappointed in his actions right now. I believe my last social security check I get from survival benefits is at the end of this month. I would used help out with the bills at the house and so would his girlfriend and my brother wouldn’t do ****, but I can no longer do that anymore, all of this money has to last me a while ’til I finally get hired from a future employer. My counselor told me it is possible, since I have suffered from ongoing depression for 4 years that I could sign up for disability, so I will check that out and she has also given me a number (I have yet to call it) about some agency is willing to help me out for an apartment. *sigh*, I really don’t know how to form this question… so I just ask for advice about what to do… what should my brother do? *sigh* I don’t know, I just need some help and guidance. PLEASE!