We have been together nearly 3 years. We’ve been married since 2/11. I love her very much . She’s just the worlds worst housekeeper. I work long hours. I average between 70-100 hours a week. I make a good living for us. I’m 27, she’s 22. I don’t make her work , she works because she wants to. She has a little part time job, 25-30 hours a week. As little as she works, she still refuses to keep the house clean. She’s kind of a slob. Theres always Coke cans on/under her night stand, there’s always dishes that need washing, there’s always clutter in the living room, there’s probably 5-6 loads of laundry that needs to be done right now as we speak. She claims that cleaning is a problem for her because she can’t get motivated. I have bought her anything I can think of to motivate her. Anytime she finds something she wants I always say “ok but please clean this house on your next day off”. About 3 weeks ago, I even went to the extreme and cleaned the ENTIRE apartment myself while she was at work. Top to bottom, side to side. Bedroom, bathroom, living room, kitchen, dishes, laundry, trash, EVERYTHING.she swore she’d maintain it. Well, that got thrown out the window. The apartment looks like junk again. I work very hard for what we have. We live in the nicest luxury apartments in town, I just paid to remodel the entire apartment. New brown leather furniture, two accent walls, new 55 inch HD Samsung tv. I pay for the best cable/Internet package available. I only say that, because I do everything I can to make her life as comfortable and luxury filled as possible. All I ask in return is a clean apartment when I come home from my 15-24hr work day. And up to this point, that’s something she’s not willing to do. I feel like it’s a slap in the face. I feel she doesn’t respect me or my contribution to our household. I don’t know what else to do. I’ve begged, pleaded, bribed, complained, etc etc etc. I’m all out of ideas.
Her parents house is very clean. She was an only child growing up, so her mom did all the cleaning for her. I think that’s a major part of the problem. Her mom always cleaned after her, so she’s never had to clean on her own. But trust me , she knows how. When I get upset enough, and she can see it’s obviously affecting me, she’ll clean the kitchen or something and say “I’ll do the living room tomorrow” .but it doesn’t happen. She’ll clean one room, then a couple/few days later clean another, then another. And by time she’s cleaned the last room, the first one is dirty again. I have talked til I’m blue in the face. She just doesn’t take me serious. She doesn’t want to talk about it, anytime I bring it up, she says “I know…I know”. It’s like she knows it upsets me, and she knows the house needs to be cleaned, but she doesn’t care enough about the house or my feelings, to do anything about it.

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