Voting Question: The biggest bully in my life is my brother?

30/10/11

My (16 year old) brother has a huge temper. He basically comes into the house and the minute he comes, he begins shouting at my little sister or mom for the tiniest things and it continues the whole day. He doesn’t talk, he shouts! When he wants to say something, he sometimes yells it out. It’s really taking a big toll on my family emotionally. My mom is stressed out already and she’s always wanted us to be calm, but with my brother that’s impossible. And he treats her horribly, he yells at her and aggravates her and she’s his mom! He has no feelings at all. Also, he makes my little sister cry all the time by saying things like she’s stupid, she’s retarted and she needs to see a doctor (she’s 8!). Mostly the stuff he says to me I ignore, because I know they’re not true and I don’t need to prove anything to him, but he’s my brother and with him saying and doing this it feels like he’s an enemy. I am always having to rush over and stop my sister from crying and distracting her or talking to my mom and telling her to ignore what he says, but it keeps happening over and over. And when I stand up to him, he ignores what I say, tells me to shut up and that I am just a kid and I don’t know anything about life. But when we ignore him, he’s just going to keep doing it. I am confused. Doesn’t he feel guilty? Or even a little angry with himself? Doesn’t he feel lonely or sorry when he does this? If it were me, I’d want to help my family and support them and listen to them, but not him. The only reason why my friend’s lives are simpler and quieter is because they don’t have an older brother. How can I get him to respect me and my family and how do I deal with this angry person I call my brother?
This kind of built up over time - he never used to be that way 3 years ago. He was the sweetest mama’s boy and me and him were kind of closer. I think middle/high school changed him and it’s upsetting, because he may never be that sweet boy again.

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